This morning I woke up with this heading - 'conflicts in a relationship equals rungs in a ladder'. For a moment I stared at the paper where I just wrote it on and decided to do a blog post on it.
Too many couples place unreasonable expectations on their spouse and on their marriage which wears down affection for each other. It is almost impossible to have two people living together without them having misunderstandings every now and then. Our strengths and weaknesses vary and we must take this into account in every relationship.
Conflicts and misunderstandings in relationships are not meant to destroy relationships but rather they should be viewed as rungs in the ladders, and that is what they are. How these rungs work for you depends on how you decide to use them. You will agree that a lot of relationships end because of inability to use these rungs/conflicts. They are actually meant to take you to your highest heights in relationship.
What propelled most people into marriage is not really love but lust which quickly fades away leaving them face to face with the reality that there is actually a lot of things that makes them different from their initially perceived soul mate/better half. This is where the disintegration starts occurring. I have seen couples who cook their separate meals in the same kitchen. That was not the case when they initially got married..
These instabilities and relationship saga have led many to conclude that there is no love or rather the attraction between a man and a woman which leads to marriage is not actually love, but may be something else and that only God is capable of true love. I have heard someone argue that - God gives the sun to everyone, gives the rain to both the good and bad, but if the power to release oxygen we in the hands of some tyrant, you know that those in his bad books will not live long.
We have too much pride, we have the tendency of forgiveness, we are unwilling to shift grounds and consider the feelings of the other person. The resultant effect of this behavior is an unhappy relationship full of grudges and bitterness because of suppressed feelings and lack of forgiveness.
The easy way for us to go sometimes is, to yell, stand our ground, nag, fight back, revenge or do something we usually regret later on all to prove that we have what it takes to keep our ego intact. Most of us do this whenever we are confronted with situations that tend to irritate us or throw us off balance,
If a relationship is worth starting, then it is worth protecting. We need to consciously learn how to resolve conflicts in relationships instead of tearing them down because conflicts in relationship equals rungs in a ladder.
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